Why Am I Not As Successful As I Should Be?


I’m asked this question all the time from clients, other coaches (yes, even other coaches), and many other ‘professional types’. In 2012 Glazer Kennedy Super Conference in Dallas, I heard Larry Winget speak on just that issue. His approach is rough but it works. I’m thick-skinned so I can look past all of the “rough” and understand exactly what he’s saying..…

    If you don’t know Larry (that’s him in the photo to my left) he’s authored several NY Times and Wall Street Best-Selling books including: Shut Up, Stop Whining &; Get a Life, and You’re Broke Because You Want To Be . Larry doesn’t hold anything back and is right on the money when it comes success and creating the kind of life that you want. His political incorrectness is refreshing.

What’s holding me and you back from achieving success is ME and YOU!  I know that and as painful as it is to admit, I have known it for a long time.  If I don’t like my life, I have no one to blame but myself, I’ve created it. Ditto for you.

I KNOW some reading this will take issue with what is being said and be offended. If so, hit the unsubscribe button at the bottom and I will no longer send you nuggets of truth that you obviously can’t handle. (And I’m really ok with you unsubscribing!)

Frankly, I don’t know about you but I am tired of whiners and complainers in my life.

Are you still with me? If so, here’s an exercise you can do right now to kick your success into high gear.

Take a few minutes and do the following 3 things:


1) Write down where you are in every aspect of your life right now (and be specific – financial,
physical, spiritual, etc.)

2) Next, write down where you’d like to be. Be specific. The more detail the better.

3) Last but not least, write down what you’ll have to GIVE UP in order get to what you want.
This is the hard one and the one most people will never do.

Did you read STEP 3? I mean really read it??!! Go back and read it – I’ll wait!

Most people know where they are in life and how they got there. Some people know want they want out of life, but very few are willing to give up ANYTHING to get to where they want to be. They abhor sacrifice and are constantly looking for the easy button to push. Success never works that way.

The only way to reach true success is in giving up whatever is making you unsuccessful, unhealthy….whatever it is that is keeping you from being as successful as you want to be or making the kind of money you want to make.  This is huge. You have just been given the golden key to success so take the time and sit down and think long and hard about what you need to do and what you need to GIVE UP to get exactly what you want .

If you really want to succeed – if you want it badly enough, you better be willing to do WHATEVER it takes to get there. So get moving! Take those much needed steps and I’ll see you at the top of the “ladder of success!”

Wishing you all the success you have the guts to grab!


PS I really would like to hear from a lot of you on this. I promise to read every comment and to reply to as many as I can. Let me know what you think.


Sharon Banks,President


Love the exercise! I’m going to buy Larry’s book…”gut renching truth” and sacrifice do work in business and everyday life. I’d rather someone would be right up front with the “up front contract” in business and life than to pussyfoot around and lie to themselves and to me!
Have a great week! Dave and I are expanding again…the team and business is still growing…you used to know us in you Sandler classes 15 years ago, we started with “Save Today” and evolved it into the
Gulf Coast Shopper…Pensacola, Ft. Walton/Destin, and Panama City soon to be in Baldwin Co., Ala.


Steve Clark


Good to hear from you and thanks for taking time to read this and reply. You will love Larry Winget’s books.


Johnny Dasher

Your are “right on” with this. Ancient Jewish wisdom, Luke 14:28 “Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. Will he not first sit down and estimate the cost to see if he has enough money to complete it?”

Steve Clark


Thanks for the reading this and replying. Most of all thanks for the the scripture reference.


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